4 reasons why people struggle to fall in love

Love is a beautiful experience. We all dream of having a happily ever after with that special someone. Like it or not, every human being longs to be loved and feel loved.

Some fall in love and fall out of love later. Some hold on to their love for their special person until death do them apart. Some have given up on love because they were betrayed in the past by their special someone.

Then there are those who are afraid to fall in love. They have a desire to love someone and be loved as well but their fears prevails against them. They envy others who are kissing and dining in their heaven of romance.

Does love hurts? No, it doesn’t. People hurt each other through negative actions and this hurt can eat away one’s love for their special person. These are reasons why people fear to fall in love:

1. Insecurity

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insecurities are a hindrance to falling in love

Their insecurities makes fear greater than their desire to fall in love. What if I’m not good enough? What is that person fails me? They are insecure about themselves and about the concept of romance.

2. Past heartbreaks

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past heartbreaks can stop you from finding romance

They have been wounded in the past by someone whom they thought loved them. That person took their love for granted and betrayed them. But instead of moving on they’re are still caught up in the burden. They can’t move forward.

3. Unrealistic expectation

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unrealistic expectations ruin the reality of relationship

This one is a common error. You expect to date an angel while you’re not one. You have unrealistic picture and imagination of who you want to date. All these pictures are in your head and not based on reality. You want to complete version of a certain celebrity as your partner. Wake Up and be real.

alt=love can be difficult to find if you lack the correct knowledge about it.
love can be difficult to find if you lack the correct knowledge about it.

4. Clueless about love

Look, the saying is still true. You can not give what you don’t have. Many people struggle to find love because they don’t know what love is and they keep on running in the circles of fantasy romance. They can’t love because they don’t have the love to give. They don’t have the love to give because they don’t love themselves. Check it!

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